You said "I do." "I choose you." You vowed to keep choosing them each day for life. Sometimes the disconnection makes it challenging to recall the vision you had for your future. It is not time to give up on your dream. It is time to dig in, do the work, and live the best version of your relationship. If you are both willing, there is no need to remain in that "stuck" place. There is a way to connect again. Allow yourselves to have hope because you truly can be better than ever.
Through the lens of attachment theory, the dynamics of your relationship will make sense. As you learn to genuinely listen and seek to understand your partner, you will develop compassion, trust, and connection on a deeper level. You will learn that your partner is not "the enemy" as we work to strengthen your bond and establish a secure relationship.
I know it isn't easy to take this step. Part of you knows you are in the right place. I hope you will find the courage to give your relationship the care it deserves.