Most people looking for a relationship therapist wish they could make changes, but don't know how. What they have tried has not worked. Everyone has irresolvable issues. Never do we have the exact same desire for money in the bank, sexual frequency, social activities, neatness, or parenting ideas (etc.) This is built-in conflict. This built-in conflict carries with it the seeds for growth and connection that would not happen in any other way. Living in distress is so awful and so curable. What I do is start with creating safety, so it is safe for you to talk to your partner and be heard, from there needed conversations can occur.
We all want to be seen and heard. It is hard to see our partner when they refuse to see us. This is the basis for the power struggle that every client knows about. The frustrations that come from this power struggle offer growth and insight that cannot be obtained in any other way.
It really can be easier, you can understand and apply what it takes to be connected again, or for the first time. I know how to show you this, I know how to bring you to understanding what to do next. I have helped many couples with these issues: I can help you.