Research shows consistently that no matter what counseling method is used, the connection between you & your therapist is the essential factor in feeling better about yourself and your life. I create a safe and supportive relationship with people. It is important that you feel heard, acknowledged & supported. This is the significant ingredient for your personal relationship transformation. In addition to deep listening, learning how to be resilient and knowing that you can support yourself through life's challenges will give you a sense of empowerment and self-esteem. I am active in the sessions, warm, supportive & practical.
People create, maintain live by spoken & unspoken rules in families. People are best understood in the family system. We choose partners to help us heal & work out our unresolved problems. My approach is to assume that you and your partner want to a loving, secure and close bond. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy, an empirically supported method.
My approach is respectful, collaborative, optimistic and holistic. Since my training is in family therapy, I work with individual clients by understanding how a person relates to others based on the patterns learned in their most significant relationship experiences; usually their relationship with their parents. So your family history is important to me.