Happy New Year! It’s 2025!
“New Year, New Me!” Sound familiar? Every year, millions of people embrace this mantra, dive into lofty goals, and promise a fresh start. But if you’ve been caught in the cycle of setting ambitious New Year’s resolutions only to feel deflated by February, you’re not alone.
At Be BOLD Psychology and Consulting, our therapists in Durham and across North Carolina believe there’s a better way to foster real, lasting change—and spoiler alert—it doesn’t involve New Year’s resolutions. Here’s why they’re often counterproductive and what you can do instead that does not involve buying a planner, throwing out your entire pantry, or signing up for a marathon.
Why New Year’s Resolutions Set You Up to Fail
Unrealistic Expectations
Resolutions often swing too far too fast. Want to run a marathon this year but haven’t jogged since high school? You’re setting yourself up for burnout and frustration. Goals need to be incremental and attainable to succeed.
Too Much, Too Soon
It’s tempting to overhaul your life overnight—get fit, save money, and learn a new language all at once! But trying to tackle too many big goals at once usually leads to abandoning them altogether.
No Flexibility
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